What is in the Best Interest of the Children?

24th April 2019
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Dean Wilson’s family team provide an editorial for the ABC Magazine, the best read free parenting magazine in Sussex and Surrey.

Here is an extract from the Q&A in the Spring ABC Magazine.


What is in the best interests of the children?


Every situation is different so there is no one answer to this question.  From my experience as a Family Solicitor I have assessed that damage to the children may be limited by following some or all of the following:-

  1. Inform your children jointly of the decision to separate.
  2. Avoid blame – emphasize that it is not their fault and that both parents love them equally.
  3. Inform them that their life will be different but do not give them choices – it is the parents’ job to decide.
  4. Make sure they realise that they are free to love each parent as before – separate your feelings from the children’s feelings – do not confuse your child by belittling or criticising the absent parent.
  5. Expect your child to play one parent off against the other or even to take sides – do not hold what they say against them.
  6. For contact arrangements – make them clear to the children and make them regular – children like routines.

Above all treat Solicitor and Court intervention as a measure of last resort.  Some cases require Solicitors to negotiate on the parents’ behalf and/or the benefit of a Court Order to regulate contact but try desperately hard to sort difficulties out direct with your ex-partner.  The children will benefit most if you are successful.

For the whole article on page 70 please visit https://edition.pagesuite-professional.co.uk//launch.aspx?eid=af0107a5-dccd-46f0-966c-c6093a1fa81b